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There are countless factors out there which can be the fuel involved that pushes the presence of a substance abuse problem, or drives the potential for a relapse. A lot of things on a list like this may very likely be things that we have heard before. There may be some people who may scoff at the ideas of certain social factors being excuses for drug abuse. Now I will say that perhaps I agree that it isn’t the excuse. But it sure may be the reason.

It can be questionable to judge something like this, if one hasn’t walked…


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It’s a popular discussion piece in treatment and therapy today. We seem to start touching on this subject once our problem(s) begin stabilizing. Whether it’s gaining control of a mental health disease like Bipolar, Anxiety, Massive Depressive Disorder, or Alcoholism/Addiction. We start to see things more clearly again. The cobwebs are going away. We begin trying to start the process of picking up from wherever the hell we left off, see what’s broke, see who is still willing to talk to us again, as well as who has now written me off.

If by some miracle we’re still employed, there’s…


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As a well known quote says, “the decisions we make, dictate the lives we lead.” It’s a quote with a concept that’s not too difficult to understand. Not always, however quite often, our lives go in directions based on choices and decisions that we made in our past.

If we want to make changes in our lives, we need to make changes and choices now, to assure that the positive future we desire, will unfold, and occur. DBT touches on this theory. …


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I know that a comparison like this would seem rather obvious when considering which route I should go. However, through the years, and with my many experiences, I have come to the conclusion that there is a lot more complexity in the world of honesty and the truth.

Now of course, I am not going to sit here, and try to tell you that sometimes being dishonest is the best choice. Because it isn’t. But I have come to find the two sided subject rather interesting. It’s such a huge part for not just me. We all face these ideas…


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The forgiveness process itself, is a crucial, important factor in the healing of pain and hurt, in so many different ways, for so many different things. When it comes to addiction, sobriety, and a life of recovery, forgiveness, and making amends are part of avenues traveled so much in those areas, that without them, that whole process would never come to completion, and so many doors would be left open, and the chance for closure would either be impossible, or close to impossible.

Admitting our mistakes is the obvious first part of the process. Disclosing of our own mistakes, and…


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When I first had come up with the next idea for writing, I had begun doing my researching in some different areas and fields of anxiety, and the topic that was to be my main goal was Emotional Tolerance, and the Emotional Tolerance Approach. As I began, I quickly got veered and redirected a bit, and ended up settling with a new subject, which is really just a wider more detailed field, then the original topic I had. It was to go further in depth, from Emotional Tolerance, to a complete healing, and that healing involved 4 categories.

We heal…


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It seems that my research of Mindfulness is on a type of path that doesn’t seem to have an ending. I say that because everytime I start to get on the complacent path while learning about Mindfulness, a new, enlightening knowledge is learned, seemingly out of nowhere. There are two types of practices used in the worlds of Meditation and Mindfulness, that relate to our minds, and the practices are called “opening the mind” and “focusing the mind.”

When referring to opening the mind for mindfulness & meditation, we’re talking about our observations of everything that is in our awareness…


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Recently, we took an initial look at fear. We learned a lot about it, starting from the ground up. The types of fear, the causes of fear, as well as the way we receive fear, and what it can do to us. Physically, mentally and emotionally. We started to look at many theories and philosophies about dealing with fear. We asked ourselves, if we must we sit down and remain stuck and attached to these fears for all eternity?

I wanted to go a bit further into the world of fear. I’ve been studying ways in which we can defeat…


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For a very long time, I didn’t understand any parts of the true meaning behind the many negative experiences that I had been faced throughout my life. I feel like I was living in a black or white place, and experiences or tribulations were things that were just either good or bad.

I had never realized back then, that life did have the potential to give me plenty of meaning. Meaning that would help mold me in a way where I could continue to develop and grow for my entire life. It took a long time before I would learn…


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Powerlessness thinking is “a belief that you have no control over yourself, or the events around you.” This type of thinking can also lead to other things like a feeling of a need to be defensive, you’ll feel as if you have no control, and you will likely become vulnerable. You think you aren’t able to do things, so you probably wont try doing things. You are able to do things. But you don’t do them, because you think you can’t. Powerlessness thinking is a combination of anxiety and depression mixed into one. “Bad things can become worse. You feel…

Michael Patanella

Author, Publisher, and Editor. I cover mindfulness, mental health, addiction, sobriety, life, and spirituality among other things. MichaelPatanella.medium.com

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